taking the high road

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

Just met w ex's dad about child visitation.  Brought up all kinds of feelings that I don't even recognize yet. I wanted to take the high road, but felt like he threatened me at one point. I told him I wasn't living in their FOG anymore, and to tell u the truth, I went off. I threatened back and I didnt feel good about it. Yet, I couldnt handle it anymore. I do feel good that I stood up for myself a little empowered, but want more to take higher road in the future without  giving away my power and self respect. Thanks

[arn131arn]

Just met w ex's dad about child visitation.  Brought up all kinds of feelings that I don't even recognize yet. I wanted to take the high road, but felt like he threatened me at one point. I told him I wasn't living in their FOG anymore, and to tell u the truth, I went off. I threatened back and I didnt feel good about it. Yet, I couldnt handle it anymore. I do feel good that I stood up for myself a little empowered, but want more to take higher road in the future without  giving away my power and self respect. Thanks

[Turkish]

Just met w ex's dad about child visitation.  Brought up all kinds of feelings that I don't even recognize yet. I wanted to take the high road, but felt like he threatened me at one point. I told him I wasn't living in their FOG anymore, and to tell u the truth, I went off. I threatened back and I didnt feel good about it. Yet, I couldnt handle it anymore. I do feel good that I stood up for myself a little empowered, but want more to take higher road in the future without  giving away my power and self respect. Thanks

Arn... . it probably felt good to get that validation by confronting him, but at this point, it might be best to go NC with all of them, as much as it is possible, and do everything through the courts. That is your wife's FOO, where her disorder likely came from. Toxic people. Think about reasoning and engaging with them is like doing the same with her. No win. Win in court... . for you and you child.

[arn131arn]

Thanks, Turk. Nobody wants this to go to court. Not my side nor her side. Her dad told me today he wasn't going to pay for her attorney fees, I, on the other hand, have a mother who just retired from one of the largest banks in the world with 2 M dollars. They know this, and my mom will give me whatever it takes, her dad has money but is very tight with it. Once the consent judgement is in place I can go NC until she breaks up with Joe Millionaire. But who knows they may get married one day... . I guess time will tell. Not my problem anymore, right? Thanks, turk

[Mutt]

Arn,

In regards to her family and friends:

Birds of a feather flock together. Blood is thicker than water. Water seeks it's own level.

I agree with Turkish.

Do what you need to do with your family, friends and support. Your not going to win them over.