Board Challenge (No Contact Game)

[santa]

Right on que. I got tested tonight. In the mail today, there is a letter from my ex. It's completely unexpected. I did not open it though. My logic is that whatever is in the envelope has no legal effect because a personal letter isn't proper service for anything like that. Unless something comes from a lawyer or a government entity, I'm going to treat it as irrelevant.

Anything my ex sends personally will only be sent to upset me and I will treat it as nonsense and ignore it.

I'm not playing that game with her anymore.

In conclusion... . I'm still in no contact and very firm with it! 

[RecycledNoMore]

Um is there a reset button on this thing, woke up to 5 missed calls...

As long as you didn't call back and didn't listen to any voicemails, you're good.  

Merry frikin christmas im still in:)

[maxen]

Right on que. I got tested tonight. In the mail today, there is a letter from my ex. It's completely unexpected. I did not open it though.

you are a strong person, to have it right there in your hands and not give in.

i received a piece of information about mine, but not from her and not at my request, my L just mentioned it. so i'm still good.

[santa]

Right on que. I got tested tonight. In the mail today, there is a letter from my ex. It's completely unexpected. I did not open it though.

you are a strong person, to have it right there in your hands and not give in.

i received a piece of information about mine, but not from her and not at my request, my L just mentioned it. so i'm still good.

Thank you.

Well, I just figured that if I'm serious about not having any contact with her, whatever is in that envelope means nothing. I'm proud of myself for staying with my plan. One problem I've often had is not taking my own advice. I've made too many decisions with my heart and not my head. I'm going to try to use my head on this one.

[Moonie75]

Thinking with my underpants is what got me into this mess!

My head never failed me. But jeez the little guy residing in my pants caused me a whole lotta trouble! 

[santa]

Thinking with my underpants is what got me into this mess!

My head never failed me. But jeez the little guy residing in my pants caused me a whole lotta trouble! 

LOL

My little guy is an idiot too. I've got to stop listening to him.

[Perfidy]

Is it forever yet?

[ucmeicu2]

Right on que. I got tested tonight. In the mail today, there is a letter from my ex. It's completely unexpected. I did not open it though. My logic is that whatever is in the envelope has no legal effect because a personal letter isn't proper service for anything like that. Unless something comes from a lawyer or a government entity, I'm going to treat it as irrelevant.

has your lawyer told you what to do if you get a letter?  if there's no legal reason to keep it/read it, will you throw it away?

[santa]

Right on que. I got tested tonight. In the mail today, there is a letter from my ex. It's completely unexpected. I did not open it though. My logic is that whatever is in the envelope has no legal effect because a personal letter isn't proper service for anything like that. Unless something comes from a lawyer or a government entity, I'm going to treat it as irrelevant.

has your lawyer told you what to do if you get a letter?  if there's no legal reason to keep it/read it, will you throw it away?

I'm a lawyer. Her sending me a personal letter isn't proper service of anything that would have any legal effect. If I get anything from a lawyer or a government entity, I'll open it. Whatever she sends me is just nonsense.

[Perfidy]

Santa... . Litigate until her boobs turn blue

[santa]

Santa... . Litigate until her boobs turn blue

LOL

I should. I just want to forget about it for now though. Let things cool off. The next time she gets arrested, she's going to have a serious problem though. I'm sure it'll be soon.

This will go on for the next 16 years.

[ucmeicu2]

I'm a lawyer. Her sending me a personal letter isn't proper service of anything that would have any legal effect. If I get anything from a lawyer or a government entity, I'll open it. Whatever she sends me is just nonsense.

well i wasn't just referring to 'proper service' but mostly is it of any value as 'evidence' against her/for you?  if not, then are you going to keep the letter or throw it away unopened?

i think you see what i'm getting at... . if you don't need it for your case, and if you're not going to read it, then why are you keeping it?  is it difficult to let go of it?

[RecycledNoMore]

Im out

I answered

I Raged

I screamed like a banshee

I snorted

I cried

I Blocked.

Reset Reset Reset dammit!

[santa]

I'm a lawyer. Her sending me a personal letter isn't proper service of anything that would have any legal effect. If I get anything from a lawyer or a government entity, I'll open it. Whatever she sends me is just nonsense.

well i wasn't just referring to 'proper service' but mostly is it of any value as 'evidence' against her/for you?  if not, then are you going to keep the letter or throw it away unopened?

i think you see what i'm getting at... . if you don't need it for your case, and if you're not going to read it, then why are you keeping it?  is it difficult to let go of it?

You make an interesting point. Why keep the envelopes if I'm not going to open them? I'll have to think about that one. I absolutely have no intention of ever opening them. Maybe I should just throw them out.

[santa]

Im out

I answered

I Raged

I screamed like a banshee

I snorted

I cried

I Blocked.

Reset Reset Reset dammit!

AWWWWW!

He finally got to you. Lol. 

Well, maybe an emotional release every now and then isn't such a bad thing.

Tomorrow is a new day.

[RecycledNoMore]

Tomorrow, tomorrow i love ya tomarrow!:)

[santa]

Tomorrow, tomorrow i love ya tomarrow!:)

It's only a day away! 

[Tolou]

Im in... .

I have been no-contact since the end of July 2013! And I have to work in the same area of my job with them.  Luckily our jobs do not interfear... .

I dont even look at her.

[DreamGirl]

You make an interesting point. Why keep the envelopes if I'm not going to open them? I'll have to think about that one. I absolutely have no intention of ever opening them. Maybe I should just throw them out.

Do you have a trusted friend? With a good gauge as to what is important and what is not?

Someone who can read these letters for you and just let you know - "this is garbage in it's entirety." Then you can just file it.  

Or maybe it is "most of it was nonsense, however your ex said your daughter had a fever and had to be taken to the ER. She's OK now."

From a legal perspective, custody determination takes into account how cooperative each parent is in co-parenting. It's important for the parent with the majority time to foster a relationship with the other parent. If she's withholding visitation and sending you letters that can show her unwillingness? It might help your case. Ignoring her and discarding pertinent information from her might also show your unwillingness to cooperate. So I think keeping the letters would be a good idea - even just to show that you're willing to cooperate with her, but not willing to engage in further conflict.