Very Powerful Words

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

Saw this today and thought I would share, it's accurately describes how I've felt/feel about my BPD r/s and how I should proceed:

"I had a dream I could change you. Not just because I could make you into who I wanted you to be... . but because I finally got to see you as the 'you' I always knew you could be... . In my dream, all the potential turned into promise... . I didnt have to motivate you because you were already motivated... . I took away all your fears and I replaced them with courage... . I took away all the trust issues and I replaced them with faith... . In my dream, the doubts turned into desires... . You stopped caring about getting hurt and you started wondering how to accept love... . You stopped questioning and you started believing... . I gave you an outlook on life that allow you to let me in. See, I had a dream I could change you... . and, that's exactly what I did... . I changed you... . For US... . I had a dream I could change you... . But, I woke up without you... . I changed you into a person that you couldn't recognize... . somebody that you were scared to see... . a version of you, that you just weren't ready to be... . In my dream, it all seemed so simple... . I could change you, and we, could be, WE... . but in changing you, it allowed me to see... . It's pointless settling for a person I'll only ever meet in my dreams... . So instead of changing you, I had to change how I felt about you, and move on... . for ME!"

[DownandOut]

Saw this today and thought I would share, it's accurately describes how I've felt/feel about my BPD r/s and how I should proceed:

"I had a dream I could change you. Not just because I could make you into who I wanted you to be... . but because I finally got to see you as the 'you' I always knew you could be... . In my dream, all the potential turned into promise... . I didnt have to motivate you because you were already motivated... . I took away all your fears and I replaced them with courage... . I took away all the trust issues and I replaced them with faith... . In my dream, the doubts turned into desires... . You stopped caring about getting hurt and you started wondering how to accept love... . You stopped questioning and you started believing... . I gave you an outlook on life that allow you to let me in. See, I had a dream I could change you... . and, that's exactly what I did... . I changed you... . For US... . I had a dream I could change you... . But, I woke up without you... . I changed you into a person that you couldn't recognize... . somebody that you were scared to see... . a version of you, that you just weren't ready to be... . In my dream, it all seemed so simple... . I could change you, and we, could be, WE... . but in changing you, it allowed me to see... . It's pointless settling for a person I'll only ever meet in my dreams... . So instead of changing you, I had to change how I felt about you, and move on... . for ME!"