My final hearing with uBPDw is two weeks from today and she has yet to move out of the house. I just found out that I am needing to be out of town next week for work - and this is making me very uncomfortable, leaving my house for a week, not knowing when she is planning on moving (she won't tell me but she's been piling up boxes in the garage all week long). Should I try to get out of traveling this week, even though its a super important work thing that I REALLY should be at? For some reason it just seems like a bad idea to be out of town with this type of stuff going on.
I just don't know what to do! Not going could potentially look very bad for me at work, but at the same time I would barely be able to concentrate knowing she was at our house, doing and taking god knows what... .
I dealt with this myself as I traveled a lot too - I totally understand your frustration. Although my ex moved, she refused to give up the key until it was "over". Technically, I couldn't change the locks, so... . I get it.
I did put items I didn't want "moved" at a friends, but my attorney arranged with ex's attorney a time and we would each have a neutral friend present. It was on ex's timeline (pick and choose battles at this point) but I made it work to be done.
Video tape the contents so you have record.
If you are still living together, you could always put a padlock on your bedroom and put what you want to keep in there when you travel.
The thing is, if she is going to take stuff, she will figure out a way - the more likely scenario is she will not take all her stuff and you will be left with random things.
