I'm 8mths on and much better and happier too... . this board is a lifeline and a place to gather some very sensible advice and much needed sympathy and care... .
I've moved on, met a healthy woman and taking things v slowly -but through her, I've learned just how bad my previous relationship was and how vulnerable I was.
The advice above is spot on; If the actions fail to match the words, it's not a healthy relationship and it may well be a BPD relationship. In 8mths my ex has done nothing with her life at all. All the promises of finding a job, gaining a professional qualification and generally acting like an adult and 'moving on' with life, were just that -promises/words. Nothing changes for her, still reliant on others, waif like, mainipulated by an ever frustrated mother who wants to spend the inherited family ££ on herself, not the daughter.
This site and a fabulous Therapist are the key. Thank you to everyone. Each day I'm stronger and happier... . and I'm glad she's gone. I actually like myself these days
which makes a change from when I was with her... . xxx DiamondSW
