Hi, isharli1, and
When a child suffers from BPD (even an adult child), not only is the child unhappy and unhealthy, but often, so is everyone who loves them. This mental illness can severely affect everyone, creating drama and heartbreak, while also piling on the guilt and anxiety. The good news is that there are answers to these problems, and we are here to offer you the support and encouragement to help you find them. You'll see that there are things that can be done to stop making things worse and begin to make them better. A great place to start is with this set of resources:
What can a parent do? I hope you will post on the
Parenting a Son or Daughter Suffering from BPD board, which is full of people who understand what you are dealing with and learning how to understand and communicate with our children better.
Is either of your daughters still living with you? What kind of support do you have--for example, is their father in the picture? Sometimes it helps to talk with a counselor of your own. Is that something you have tried before?
Wishing you peace,
PF