Music helped me through the hardest times.

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

Music helped me through the hardest times. It helped me open up and lean into the pain when I couldn't. It helped me understand. Keep in touch with myself. Feel understood when nobody was there to listen.

In short it was a constant companion on my journey to feeling better.

Actually I still have all the playlists. And it is quite interesting how they mirror my healing progress. I am tempted to write about it.

But for now I want to share a song that I was only able to really take in lately.

I hope you have a nice day/evening/night.

You're not in this alone.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xYkBxwbcZKE

[thatwasthat]

Music helped me through the hardest times. It helped me open up and lean into the pain when I couldn't. It helped me understand. Keep in touch with myself. Feel understood when nobody was there to listen.

In short it was a constant companion on my journey to feeling better.

Actually I still have all the playlists. And it is quite interesting how they mirror my healing progress. I am tempted to write about it.

But for now I want to share a song that I was only able to really take in lately.

I hope you have a nice day/evening/night.

You're not in this alone.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xYkBxwbcZKE

[Junknown]

Nice music, thanks for sharing! 

[BuildingFromScratch]

I've found that Pink Floyd - The Wall, Nico - The Marble Index and the song "Fix You" by Coldplay have all helped me a lot. Although I think I'm gonna need to search for  more positive music soon, . I liked the song you linked, thanks!

[Butterfly44]

Thank you, thank you thatwasthat! That has just really made me smile... .

That's going on my playlist right now!

[ducklings12345]

Lovely up beat healing track ... .thanks for sharing, keeps things positive when sometimes they can feel overwhelmingly negative! 

[thatwasthat]

Thought I might share some music in this thread from time to time.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ChvtO8_nYck

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RZU6Bzyt6Y4

(the second one might be somewhat triggering for people that are at the moment really battling, so keep that in mind.)

[Blimblam]

I found music to help also. I focused on music that helped me to get in touch with the pain and suffering.

[thatwasthat]

I found music to help also. I focused on music that helped me to get in touch with the pain and suffering.

Same here. I actually used different songs like different "pills."

Some songs really opened up the flood gates... .

[ADecadeLost]

I'm a little late to the party, but for some reason this song has resonated with me as I work through things. 

Tropical London - Rancid

www.youtube.com/watch?v=palaQyQqhYg

It's punk and may not be many folks ideal genera, but the lyrics feel all too familiar to me.  And this part in particular just helps me feel better:

"If you lose me, you lose a good thing, that's one thing I know for sure.

If you lose me, girl, you lose a good thing, that's one thing I know for sure."

Singing those lines was a nice little confidence boost during the weeks immediately following my ex leaving me.

[ATLandon]

Music has always been extremely therapeutic for me. I have a hard time getting in touch with my own emotions, so it definitely acts as a catalyst to get things out in the raw.

This album, "More Than You Think You Are" by Matchbox 20 got me through a breakup with a woman who had BPD qualities. I'm already listening to it again this go around. The song ":)isease," especially sums up my current feelings about my uBPDwife.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=H81cfoICzZo

www.youtube.com/watch?v=FNSOqSsqEcw

[hergestridge]

Funny that this came up for discussion. When I was still with my BPDw I couldn't stand sad, emotional music.

Now that I'm out of it I can listen to all those records again.

Marble Index and the Wall are actually two of those records I couldn't stand but that I'm finding my way back to.

Two weeks ago I sat and listened to Pink Floyd's The Final Cut, sang along and cried like a baby! :-D Truly catharctic and very liberating. Finally in touch with my feelings again.

[ATLandon]

My recurring breakup playlist for now:

-"November Rain," by Guns N' Roses

-"You Give Love a Bad Name," by Bon Jovi

-":)evil In Disguise," ":)on't Be Cruel," and "Suspicious Minds" by Elvis Presley

-"Foundations," by Kate Nash

-"Cry Me A River," by Ella Fitzgerald

-"Tainted Love," by Soft Cell

-"Wonderwall," by Oasis

-"Hurt," either by Nine Inch Nails or Johnny Cash

-"Smile," by Lily Allen

[neverloveagain]

"Please"

this is how

it begins

push it away but it all comes back again

all the flesh

all the sin

there was a time when it used to mean just about everything

just like now

breathe, echoing the sound

time starts slowing down

sink until I drown

(please) I don't ever want to make it stop

and it keeps repeating

will you please complete me?

never be enough

to fill me up

watch the white

turn to red

it fills up the hole but it grows somewhere else instead

all my life

yeah yeah yeah yeah, but it just left me dead

(well guess what?)

the world is over and I realize it was all in my head

now everything is clear

I erase the fear

I can disappear

(please) I don't ever want to make it stop

you can never leave me

will you please complete me

never be enough

to fill me up

usic helped me too listening and writing my own to let the pain out. Me and my BPDexgf were really into the rock thing one of her favourite songs is please by nin says a lot i never noticed before.

[Fluff]

I never listened to music with vocals until after this breakup. :D

In the beginning when I was mourning and just discovered BPD I listened a lot to Katie Melua - Just like Heaven.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LmJFxUegONQ


And later, in phases of anger and acceptance, I listened a lot to Phil Collins - Easy Lover

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fOXvnGPzDYc

[rubyhammer]

I couldn't find working link to it but…"The Sunset Tree" by The Mountain Goats has really helped me.  I haven't been on the boards in a few months, been busy getting divorced from my uBPDw.  We've been divorced officially now since October 1st, living separately since September 1st.  All I can say is I'm glad I have custody of my D9.  Other than that it's just plain hard.

[Ex-Dreamboy]

"I'll Take the Rain" by R.E.M. could practically be the official anthem of the Leaving board, it seems to me:

"I used to think

As birds take wing

They sing through life so why can't we?

You cling to this

You claim the best

If this is what you're offering

I'll take the rain

I'll take the rain

I'll take the rain."

The official animated video is super-triggering (at least for me), but if you're ever in a mood to really cry it out (or test your resistance to triggers, haha), take a look: www.youtu.be/JlIj6BxUS6E