Any success with DBT in your love relationship?

[Living w BPD]

Ok so here is my story. My mother has BPD, my ex husbands (2) have BPD and I am now engaged to someone with this. For the longest time I did not understand that this was what I was facing. But over the last 3 years it has all been diagnosed. Meaning my mom was given the diagnosis last year. The year before my ex and my fiancé were both diagnosed. I have lots of therapy under my belt so I understand why I kept ending up in abusive crazy making relationships. I would run from one to another. This one by far is very overwhelming. He is low functioning. I am exhausted from the emotional roller coaster, hypersensitivity, paranoia, extreme clingy behavior. With being surrounded with BPD my whole life I am now recognizing I have some traits... .Not enough for that diagnosis but I do have some of them. I wanted to find out if anyone on here has had good success with DBT? I told my fiancé that things need to change and that both he and I need to go through this along with therapy for me to consider staying. I also told him he needed to move out while we were doing this. He is flipping out. Scared, almost a full on breakdown. Will this even work? Am I fooling myself? How do I let him go? I am starting to truly understand that I can not fix him. But he tells me he is full on committed to do whatever to keep the relationship... I am skeptical that he can even do it. Insight would be helpful.

Thank you

T

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