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Author Topic: Strange text From ex uBPD girlfriend  (Read 361 times)
confused1730
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« on: December 25, 2014, 04:54:37 PM »

Broke up second week in October after 18 months of drama. The devaluation was I suppose with hindsight from august but I believe she thought I was sick of her painting me black and her rage and vile behaviour to me. When I said I was emotionally withdrawing she quickly moved on - her jealousy throughout was pathological. She has a replacement. There were a few texts after the break after a couple of weeks NC but was her texts were nasty, personal and clear evidence that she has painted me beyond black... .her projection was amazing.

Anyhow - strange (as far as I am concerned) happened on Monday this week. I saw her at some traffic lights as our vehicles were side by side. We looked at each other but didn't acknowledge. I sped off to avoid awkwardness. Then - and this my point, I receive a text ten hours later saying, "please refrain from driving dangerously to get my attention"... .I thought this crazy and obviously I didn't respond. I have not from her since.

My question is simply - why has she contacted? Is this normal? What is the point - if I was with someone new the last thing I would do if I was indifferent is make contact... .Anybody any thoughts please?
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« Reply #1 on: December 25, 2014, 05:04:36 PM »

She thinks that everything is about her, and every opportunity she gets to try and get control over you, she will take. Even if it is a simple text. EVERYTHING IS ABOUT HER!
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« Reply #2 on: December 25, 2014, 05:10:17 PM »

Thanks - I understand the control and everything is about her, but what on God's earth when she is happy with a replacement would possibly make her want to text me ten hours after seeing me with that message - to me it must have wound her up seeing me or me ignoring - why get in touch? It makes zero sense or am I being naive?
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« Reply #3 on: December 25, 2014, 05:26:21 PM »

She wants to keep you tied to her, in case a relationship with her replacement does't work out... .Don't give her the option to use you as a second option... .She just wants you as plan B. Don't respond to her... .
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« Reply #4 on: December 25, 2014, 05:31:55 PM »

Thanks - you are helpful and more knowledgeable than me on this stuff!

I cannot believe the not very nice contact "please retain etc... ." is about keeping me as back up, is that how they work? I guess I should be wary at some point of future contact then? I can block and have - but only live 3 miles away!
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« Reply #5 on: December 25, 2014, 06:48:05 PM »

I sped off to avoid awkwardness.

Hard to know what is inside someone else's head. Here is my guess on it though... .

You made her angry for speeding off first. That took her option or plan to speed away from you away. So you won the race to get away. So in her disordered mind she looked like the loser. A lot of this "happiness" they have with the replacement is exaggerated like what they post on FB. I think they want a link with us just incase of a recycle or to punish you for something or have you help change a flat tire one day also if it gets flat.
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