How long have you been married? Recent is a relative term as there are people here that have been dealing with this for lots of years, which means that there are a lot of people here that can help you try to navigate your way through this. It isn't easy.
One of the best places to start is with the lessons on the side of the page. Here is the direct link:
https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=56206What kinds of struggles are you having that are specific to your relationship? As you read and identify areas that you want to work on or navigate, you can post and get input from others.