I feel empty after breaking up with my exBPDbf

[Kasina]

Hello everyone ,

I know I will feel better in awhile,I m trying to cope up and trying to heal.right now I m trying to focus in my career any my self.i go out,hang out with friends but I feel drained

As if nothing I will do will make any difference as the damage is done.

It's not always like this sometimes u feel very optimistic and up best and then there are times like this e.g today ... specialy today I feel just empty and lost...

I m trying to maintain my NC with my exbf.

I know this relationship is not healthy i couldn't change him or make him realise how much I lived him so it's time to change myself and let him go.

It's just that today I feel exhausted ... hating him not wanting him not thinking about him

Is exhausting !

I just want to see him right now l,I m fighting this urge not to.

Just wanted to vent...

I m thinking about moving to another city I have alot of friends there.kust wanted to take break ... is this a good idea?or will it leave me more empty and lonley ?

[Aurylian]

I don't know your full story, but if moving to a different city is an option, and you have a support network there, I don't see how that could bad. 

[Kasina]

Hey Aury thankyou for the reply and advice.

Sorry I couldn't fin the link to my older posts otherwise would have shared here.

My story is the same aa many of others here in support forum .

I was in to a committed relationship

With my ex BPDbf for more than two years.everything was unusually perfect by the end of the r/s because before getting engaged it was pretty stormy.he broke up with my twice but got back together in weeks time.

It was his rages,devaluation and then months of silent treatments but then for quite sometime things were really getting good.good as in there was growth in this relationship that I never thought would happen.he changed,we got really close and finally I had the intimacy with him that I wished for.

We got engaged and after two months  of really understanding and beautiful r/s he broke up.

It was quite sudden ... I still can't understand what actually caused it.

Probably abandonment and rejection fears.

He's with his ex now and I have heard from a mutual friend that they are going to get married.

He did this to me before with another of his ex when we wee just on two month of r/s.

He got engaged to his other ex but left her and hence the recycle started with me.

So this time I m putting my foot down.i have had enough of this... it's just I can't help this feeling of love that I have for him .

It's exhausting .

[Kasina]

The post got a little confusing ...

2 years r/s

Broke up twice everytime he broke up he went to two of his ex's.(second time this one).

It's been 2 months since we got engaged and then the break up happened.

[brokenbyothers]

If you have the opportunity to move and be successful... DO IT! Im stuck on a tiny island due to my business and it sucks seeing her everywhere with the replacement. Haven't run into her for 2 weeks and its great for me, but small island. Just a matter of time. I'm finally letting go by reminding myself that she will do the same with him as she did to me and all the others before me. Hang in there!

[Kasina]

Hello brokenbyoth,

Thankyou for the advice,yes I m trying my best to move on.i hope I succeed.i am just waiting for the day when my heart will finally stop aching because in my mind I am already moved on as I have realized that he is no way a healthy person for me and with time this r/s is going to get worst .

So better sooner than later.

I feel sorry that you are stuck with this person in an island.i just hope that you don't run in to her any sooner  and I wish that you move on soon.

I know it sucks right now but once you will be over her and find a better person to be with(which you will)things will be great for you but for this person it's going to be continuos cycle of Hurt and dissalointments until she gets help.

As for the relationships with this replacement... trust me 'this shall too suck" like any other of hers relationship .

Take care of yourself .

X

[Mutt]

Tao Te Ching by Lao Tzu Chapter 22 helped me when I felt drained, lost, exhausted post break-up.

Yield and overcome;

Bend and be straight;

Empty and be full;

Wear out and be new;

Have little and gain;

Have much and be confused.

[Kasina]

Thankyou mutt for the reference ,it was very thoughtful

X

Tao Te Ching by Lao Tzu Chapter 22 helped me when I felt drained, lost, exhausted post break-up.

Yield and overcome;

Bend and be straight;

Empty and be full;

Wear out and be new;

Have little and gain;

Have much and be confused.

Tao Te Ching by Lao Tzu Chapter 22 helped me when I felt drained, lost, exhausted post break-up.

Yield and overcome;

Bend and be straight;

Empty and be full;

Wear out and be new;

Have little and gain;

Have much and be confused.

Tao Te Ching by Lao Tzu Chapter 22 helped me when I felt drained, lost, exhausted post break-up.

Yield and overcome;

Bend and be straight;

Empty and be full;

Wear out and be new;

Have little and gain;

Have much and be confused.