Can't get over breakup with BPD

[Timkenney]

Ouch! Had no idea this breakup would be this hard. We parted and recovered so many times, and she would always apologize for her rages, violence, breaking things etc.

I found this site and was shocked to see the truths in the intro.

Tim

[Kasina]

Hey timkinney ,

Glad you fund BPD family support forum,it is very helpful.

My BPDbf broke up with me a month ago and I am urging to grasp the idea of what has happened .i am on my road to heal.

I am sorry that you are going through this,I know it must be hard to understand what happened in between you and her but stay on this board keep posting and reading lessons about how to cope up with a person with BPD in your life .

I sorry I can't be of much help but I do understand what you are going through cause I m going through the same at the moment.

X

[EaglesJuju]

Hi Timkenney, 

I would like to join Kasina and welcome you.

I am sorry that you are going through this.  I can imagine how hard and painful this must be for you.     The aftermath of a relationship with a person with BPD (pwBPD) is really hard.  The periods of idealization from a pwBPD are so intense and special and almost addictive.  There are many members here going through similar situations.

Sharing your story really helps with coping with the hurt. Perhaps you could share more of your story so we can help you better?

[Lucky Jim]

Hey Timkenney, What makes you think your former SO has BPD?  What led to your b/u?  One thing that surprises me is that, in the past, your SO would apologize for her rages and tirades.  This is different from the norm, I suggest, because most pwBPD refused to take responsibility for their violent tendencies.  LuckyJim

[Mutt]

Hi Timkenney,



Kasina and members understand what you are going through.

EagelsJuju is correct the aftermath of break-up with a pwBPD is really hard.

LuckyJim has a good question is she diagnosed?

Often our experiences are painful, confusing.

It helps to talk.


----Mutt