I now believe that once you have escaped the clutches of a BPD you should never seriously consider going back, even if there are children involved. I believe they are absolutely mentally ill and have moments of "clarity of mind". They have a complicated "unstable" mental state
Ditto on those thoughts. We were married 35 yrs and he just kept getting worse with age. I have refused to break no contact for the past 3 years; my life is too peaceful now to ever go back into that kind of hell.
I wonder if I will be recovering for the rest of my life... .