The girl who cried wolf

[SummerStorm]

I hate lying.  I absolutely hate it.   I'm a teacher and can excuse most of the stupid things that kids do, but lying just gets under my skin.

When I was friends with my former friend BPD, I started to question everything she said.  And she did lie about some things.  However, I recently found out that she was actually telling the truth about many things I thought she was lying about.

This whole situation reminds me of the story "The Boy Who Cried Wolf."  She lied about so many other things that I didn't believe her when she was telling the truth.  Has anyone else ever discovered that your exBPD was actually telling the truth about things you thought he/she was lying about? 

[problemsolver]

Nope... .in my opinion my BPDex basically lives a lie... lied to her ex about me and lied to me about her ex... she was able to keep this lie for 1 full year... .we would both constantly ask "do you talk to him" ... she would say no no no... with a straight face... great actress to be fair

[SummerStorm]

Nope... .in my opinion my BPDex basically lives a lie... lied to her ex about me and lied to me about her ex... she was able to keep this lie for 1 full year... .we would both constantly ask "do you talk to him" ... she would say no no no... with a straight face... great actress to be fair

Oh, mine is definitely a great liar, and she lied about some pretty awful things.  But there were things that I had convinced myself that she'd lied about, and she was actually telling the truth. 

[SamwizeGamgee]

For me, the feeling that my uBPDw was crying wolf is what alerted me something not being right.  I learned not to follow her crazy accusations and attempts at making me guilty of whatever it was going on in her head.  It is really tough to keep sane.

[Mutt]

Hi SummerStorm,

Pathological lying or mythomania can be common with BPD. A pwBPD have difficulties keeping close relationships, fear abandonment and rejection and will do whatever it takes to keep the relationship.

[LostGhost]

Hi SummerStorm,

Pathological lying or mythomania can be common with BPD. A pwBPD have difficulties keeping close relationships, fear abandonment and rejection and will do whatever it takes to keep the relationship.

Hey mutt,

What does it mean when I experienced the opposite, where my BPD ex didn't seem to want to do anything to keep the relationship and was all too happy to terminate it and discard me?

[hurting300]

Mine lead a double life. So... .