weird conversation with ex BPD

[Marshmellow]

hi all!

Ex BF BPD/NPD recently wanted to talk, not text as we have done mos past. It was a lot of drama beforehand, setting a specific time, then changing that time, being " exuberant"  and excited to " catch up"... .This texting and drama went on for hours, when I thought , Oh boy! here we go again... nothing can be simple! I suggested another time, when I quickly recieved a call. When we did speak, his mood had changed drastically... was very negative... he sounded polite at first, then I quickly picked up an angry tone lying beneath the surface of " nicety". He was trying I could tell to be in his best behavior, but started making interjections I used to make ABt him, and his Jekyll Hyde behavior, referring to his boss. He slipped in a few underhanded comments when I cut the convo short and had to go, with him asking if we could talk the next week too? I never answered but wished him a good week. I tried to be upbeat and told him how well things were going with me. He made no comment... I got off the phone feeling nothing but pity for him...

Have others experienced this with their ex? I felt he wanted to start a fight, but I stayed in course and didn't take the bait...

[Turkish]

Good for you for staying centered, though sorry that you had to endure such an invalidating conversation. When he wants to talk the next time, will you?

[Rmbrworst]

Sounds painful.

It sounds like this only re affirmed why you left.  Maybe you can take solace in that.