Dear nralbanese121,
And welcome!
Very sorry to hear about your challenging situation though.
We cannot provide any diagnostic here, but it seems that your relationship is very troublesome.
What are YOUR expectations for the future?
What do you want from this relationship?
Can you talk about them with your spouse as an adult? Would your spouse the respect your possible agreements? (Now, in a year, two years...etc)?
What would make you happy?
What would make your kids and you happy, jointly?
What kind of model you would like to be for your kids?
Just some questions you might to think about.
Very good that you found this forum,
We do understand.
Keep on posting !
Kind regards
Vincenta