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iamnotcrazy
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« on: October 14, 2016, 11:34:18 PM »

So there is a girl in madly in love with. I dated her my senior year in high school and we had a really bad breakup because I had some meltdowns from my BPD. I graduated and after a few months we started seeing each other again, again I had some problems. We broke up again, but this time I attempted suicide. I moved and was I and out of psych units and now for awhile managed to stay out. Now she's back in my life, and I can feel myself losing myself in my love for her again. I almost got her pregnant a couple days ago. I want so bad to make it work. What do I do? 
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« Reply #1 on: October 15, 2016, 03:03:44 AM »

Hi iamnotcrazy,

I am very sorry to hear that things are so difficult for you right now. It sounds like you really love this girl, and I can understand how hard it is when things don't seem to be working no matter how much you want them to.    It is great to see you reaching out for help and support - a very brave and scary thing to do.

This site is a support group for those who are or were in a relationship with a person with BPD, so many of the posts can be triggering to a BPD sufferer.

Thankfully, there are resources of the type you're seeking. Please check out Resources for BPD Sufferers.

I wish you all the best on your journey.

heartandwhole
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« Reply #2 on: October 15, 2016, 01:21:19 PM »

Hi iamnotcrazy,

I'm sorry to hear that you're having difficulties. Good for you for reaching for help,  Bullet: contents of text or email (click to insert in post) heartandwhole gave you some information to get help, this site is for the non disordered partner in a r/s and to educate ourselves on the disorder but keep it up with looking for help and advice. My advice to you is take really good care of yourself. I wish you well on your journeys.

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