Hi Minnow30,
I'd like to join
Kwamina 
the board parrot and welcome you. I have a father that displays traits of an anxiety disorder. He was a very difficult man that couldn't be reasoned with and was controlling, I wasn't allowed to go have friends or see them, living at home felt like I was incarcerated. I didn't understand that I was growing up / living with a mentally ill parent until much later in life when I married a woman that has traits of BPD, they both had similar traits but had very different ones too, my ex wife is very impulsive where my father is not but very anxious. Anyways, what's you backstory? I'm glad that you decided to join us, you'll find many members here that can relate with you and offer you guidance and support, it helps to talk.