I have seen it time and again... how they skip off into the sunset... Scott free...
Yeah... .When you are left behind it seems like how 'easy' they can rebump their life and move on.
the reality is though... .They must move on so fast and sure cause they are NOT capable of what we do:
- working through grief and loss
- owning up to past mistakes
- find ourselfs again through healing
- feel true abandonment (not just the fear)
- grow through pain
They simply HAVE to find a next attraction, cause they lack skills to process a breakup in a 'healthy' way, its a matter of life and death for them.
And through the urgency they go about in finding replacements, they ussually are worse of then before, so they ussually move on fast, but does it really last?
It's ofcourse a poor consellation when we get to spend our first christmas alone or with a family ripped-apart, but therefor i intend to make Christmas twice as big as last year :-)
And it will heal, i spend a long time not believing it would be possible myself. The last month i actually have many moments i am thankfull to have had "the experience", cause i learned so much about myself and for the first time in my life, i truelly befriended myself.
