Spiltting (Broken Up)

Dusi2591

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Spiltting (Broken Up)

« on: December 18, 2016, 07:27:10 PM »

Are pwBPD aware they are splitting? I tried explaining to her that this is in her head. Im not this demon and I love her and haven't broken her heart but she wont listen and just told me this isn't the borderline it's her being done and finished she doesn't even know me and I don't know her. Everyone I've talked to though and my gut says its her borderline. (two physiologists, her mom, ) our relationship had it's problems like every other relationship but was in no means broken. and the day before all this even hours before this Id say she was deeply in love.


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Re: Spiltting (Broken Up)

« Reply #1 on: December 19, 2016, 02:06:26 AM »

From what I have read, what they feel in that moment is that they truly feel.

So if they hate your guts, their perceptions will truly make them feel that way due to the disorder. Likewise, if they suddenly paint you white, then everything you say and do they will admire.

If they won't get medicated/help, the best thing to do is to walk away before you get into serious legal trouble. I wish I had known it would keep on getting worse after thinking she had finally gotten proper medications!


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Re: Spiltting (Broken Up)

« Reply #2 on: December 21, 2016, 09:42:52 PM »

Hello Dusi,

Your question is something is similar to mine. At times my gf is as present as can be, and quickly can just "disappear". From a distance, and with reading it does seem like she understands but cannot accept anything other than the lucky emotion or answer that gets through. It is usually an ABSOLUTE. She cannot be just a little dismayed when I'm too tired to give her time, she can only feel that I'm "over" her.

I guess what I'm saying is that the grey areas don't easily exist for her, she knows she is overreacting but simply has no brakes to stop it.


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