7 years out. There is hope my life is amazing

[Confused99]

Hello everyone
First off not bragging.  This board saved me day and night for so many months after months.  I was in an absolute disaster of a relationship with a BPD.  The highs, the lows, and everything in between.  When it finally ended for the 50th time, I was at the lowest point of my life.  I couldn’t eat.  I couldn’t sleep.  I could barely get out of bed some days.   The emptiness and sickness in my stomach was unbearable.  As much as I hated her I yearned for that text.  I spent so much time stalking her movements.  I honestly felt like I would never move on.  I was so broken

I met someone about a year later.  Started slow but was tough to love again.  But she was the most amazing person and treated me like I knew I should have.  7 years later.   Married and I have never, ever been happier.  I love each and every day.  No blow out fights.   No cops coming to house.  No attacks.  Nothing just my best friend.  It’s amazing. 

I won’t lie I still glimpse at the old ex even though I shouldn’t on social.  But what used to destroy me does nothing but makes me laugh.  She’s 2 guys deep now.  Same old same old. 


There is hope.  One foot in front of the other.  I’m here if anyone wants someone to chat with.   Love you all.  You got this

[Under The Bridge]

just my best friend

You can't get better than that. To have a partner who is also your best friend and someone you'd want to be with anyway is even better. I had a similar thing after my eventual breaking up with a BPD partner and it led to far, far better things. Life does indeed go on, given time and determination.

Your ex is still on the same treadmill, destined to repeat over and over again. You got off the treadmill and are now on a happy and exhilerating fairytale ride with your new partner.

best wishes

[seekingtheway]

This is a great story to read - I had a quick look at your backstory, and can see how much pain you were in a few years back, and how much of a ride it was. It's really heartening to hear how much you've healed and moved forwards, definitely inspiration for many of us here, including myself. It's hard to imagine being with someone else, let alone being happy with someone else at times, but there is opportunity hidden in all of the hurt if you choose to take it.

Thank you for coming back and giving us an update!