Yes I'm in a relationship with someone diagnosed with BPD. I'm focusing on changing my own unhealthy behaviors... .not living up to my values, poor personal boundaries. Always thought my easy going personality was a good thing, well it's not. It's how I got where I am. I take responsibility for my part in this relationship.

Don't drop your easy going personality, just add the boundaries and the tools. It's amazing how much learning both those helps my current r/s as well as some of my work relationships.