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Recycle attempt while I was still split black
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I've never heard of this ever happening before. At the end I discovered she had hit such a rock bottom that she needed to attach to someone so badly that she tried to come back to me... .someone she still despises. The entire time I spoke to her she looked at me with disgust, never ever said the right things (I made the biggest mistake, I miss you, I love you, etc.). I told her she broke the relationship beyond repair, I'll never trust her again and she flipped... ."I hate you, you're a sorry mother f'er, there's a reason I left you in the first place".
Rock bottom: she took a ton of pills then almost immediately called 911. On suicide watch at the hospital for 72 hours... .because her current boyfriend broke up with her.
Positive for me: I'm keeping my son. Called my lawyer almost immediately after I found this out, I have text message proof from her, and I'm sure the courts can verify the hospital record. Lawyer said that no sane judge will issue her custody until she's completed a ton of therapy and the therapist gives her a clean bill of mental health.
On Monday I will be going to circuit court to have my temporary restraining order made permanent giving me full custody. Lawyer said it's going to be cut and dry.
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After I broke up with my girlfriend last March while she was inpatient mental health, and moved out, when she got out of the hospital we still had some minor contact through text/phonecall over the next 3 months while she was dating some girl...
Pretty sure my breaking up with her while she was in there caused her to hit rock bottom... She became so much more self-destructive after this... And it was noticeable...
Anyway, about 3 months later I contacted her because I missed her and wanted to talk things out... She agreed to meet, but when we met I noticed something a little off...
I was super excited and relieved to see her again... I noticed she had an angry looking frown on her face. I ran up to her and gave her a hug, and all she did was stand there and didn't even put her arms around me...
She agreed to come back to me, but I'm pretty sure she only agreed to do that so that she could punish me and initiate her vindictive revenge. I let it all happen too...
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Wow! It's all hindsight now but you see that you missed (or ignored) a lot of bad signs.
I saw it all. Maybe all the research I have been doing on BPD but everything she did was a red flag to me. Now looking back I was probably her backup plan in case she couldn't get back with her new BF. I told her no, I told her to get out of my house, I told her to seek therapy.
The next day she sent me a "are you sure you don't want to try again" text which I responded "no" and now she's disappeared again. Hopefully not harming herself but most likely looking for her next target or back with the most recent ex.
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