R/s w/pwBD - can it be a fulfilling place?

[spacecadet]

   Most of what is posted on these boards is from people who are at the end of their rope, grieving, etc.

Questions. If a person with BPD is somewhere on the road to recovery... .has insights, makes an effort to regulate themselves, keep structure in their life etc. And possesses qualities (BP and other attributes) that work with a non's own attributes and issues, can the r/s not just last but actually be a fulfilling place? Understood that dips and bad patches will happen. But for those who make the effort, is it overall a place where the drama does not overshadow the good but the good predominates, over time with practice and effort from both?

If so I wonder how, given the depth of the feeling of brokenness within the BP. I've been reading threads written by people wBP and it sounds like they live a day-to-day nightmare.

How can they feel love, give love, when their needs and their pain are so overwhelming?

The first is a yes/no question but please elaborate... .and if there's a better board it's cool, I wasn't sure where to put this... .
TIA

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[Turkish]

It sounds like you're describing a relationship that works.  There are success stories at the top of the Improving and Parenting boards.  They involve healing on the other side,  but also commitment to approaching things differently on the "non" side.