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« on: September 21, 2017, 01:59:24 PM »

My wife has BPD and I just want to know if anyone else goes through what I do because lately I cant tell if its her or me. She lies to me she abuses me mentally and physically then says its my fault. We have been together 11 years and we separated for 6 months and 3 days after we separated she was sleeping with a 19 yr old boy. She asked me to come back and I did and she has been caught still talking to him on FB... .im sorry did I mention she is his boss at work. She feels no remorse for any of this and blames me saying im controlling and mean to her  contolling as in please dont cheat on me thats my expectation that she says is controlling. We have a son who is 13 and during the separation she had this kid at our house to sleep with him and my son was in the next room. He told me he felt uncomfortable and she said oh well im an adult. please does any of this go on in anyone elses life.    
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« Reply #1 on: September 28, 2017, 12:28:59 AM »

Sorry for the very late reply... .

That sounds brutal upon you and also your son.  So you are all still living together since you returned to the home?

What of physical abuse has she engaged in?

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« Reply #2 on: September 28, 2017, 03:30:48 PM »

Hi Anine320, 

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I'd like to join Turkish and welcome you to bpdfamily. Wow, I'm sorry that you're going through that.

I'm glad that you have found us, there is hope, many of our members here can relate with you and offer you guidance and support, you're not alone.

Read as much as you can about the disorder, you will quickly see the benefits and become proficient over time. So she's still talking to him and you're back home? What's your boundary on this?
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