Hi vent,
I've often described my BPD r/s as both my best and worst r/s in one. It will certainly become part of our history. Our life story. We can take from it what we choose to and carry forward with us the lessons we have learned, therefore improving upon our past selves if we desire to. Will it become part of our personality? I guess that is a choice. Can you be specific about how you see it doing that with yourself?  :)o you find that your behaviour is affected by your experience?
Love and light x
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Hi Harley Quinn,
Thank u for reply
I spend 6 years with him... it's almost like live-in relationship... there are plenty of things which are influenced by him... when I am seeing or doing dat I missing or hating him badly... can not be neutral.so for me it's really hard to do daily activities also... the way he criticized me is actually too bad but I am used to this also n I jst get thought if he will here what he will say... movies,places,food like this lot of things related to this remind whole story... I am unable to connect to things,people n myself also... I am not okay with me...