I won my case in court today

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I won my case in court today

« on: January 24, 2018, 12:35:37 PM »

Hi All,

I just wanted to let you all know my great news. Many of you know my story from my thread back here, and will know that this has been a heavy burden for some months now. Today I had the final full day hearing in family court where my ex partner and son Ty's father had applied for a child arrangement order in favour of himself being the main carer for Ty, for Ty to live with him and for me to 'spend time with' my son. He was also attempting to reduce the time I was spending with Ty.

It was a tough day. Dan denied everything in my statement was true, which I'd expected, and his solicitor took the dirty fighting approach, but my guy was steady and represented me really well. The social worker still believed Dan's lies about an incident that didn't happen, which was their key reasoning for supporting his case. As neither of us was interviewed, I was unable to respond but I felt my written statement spoke volumes. It was a bit surreal for 2 hours whilst waiting for the decision, as it could have gone either way and what would happen next really was in the hands of the universe.

The outcome was that the court decided to grant my request for a shared care arrangement, giving both of us equal rights and responsibilities as parents, and that Ty will live with both of us. They also decided that the care will be split exactly 50/50 between us, which is what I had proposed. I was so happy to hear the result that I felt tears streaming down my face. I think the panel knew then that they had made the right decision.

Family, I thank you for being in my corner through this, for your wise counsel, encouragement, love and support during the last few months. I really don't think I could have made it through without you. Feel so blessed to have you all in my world. When I felt I was falling apart with the stress and anxiety, you guys put me back together. I owe you all a debt of gratitude.

Yes you were just love bombed

So the moral of my post is this. Always stay strong, push ahead, hold on tight to your values and never ever ever give up on what is right and good for yourselves or your children. This man has in the past (and has just tried again very hard to) run me into the ground and left me feeling worthless. Thanks to my friends and Family I have stood my ground and proven to myself once and for all that we truly can achieve anything against all adversity. I wish the same for each of you wonderful folks out there in your lives. You deserve so much.

Love and light enough to turn night into day xxx


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