She feels ashamed for seeing me behind everyones back

[Depression = 72% of members]

We had an explosive break-up and things went a bit too far.
Her friends and family despise me. It's been 2 months since we broke-up and we both tried to move on(and failed). I did said some bad things towards her(the first time i've insulted her after 2+ years), and accused her mother of manipulating her. It's nothing compared to what I was accused and called, I'm not excusing myself... .I've cracked. I had the chance to be better and failed.

Recently she calls me asking to see me. Confesses the following:
-She was cold towards me because she had to try to move on
-She feels like she's not complete anymore. The feeling that came with losing me made her empty and can't escape it no mater she tried.
-Wants to see me, hug me, sleep with me... but she is ashamed of it because of how i hurt her and how her family sees me now
-besides her family she has some sort of 'new lover' that she has to lie aswell. is affraid that someone will find out.
-She needs me to be complete and happy. When she's with me she feels scared she will get cought and she won't lie if confronted. Basically she needs me now more than ever but my presence causes fear.

I've told her to just take some time to search her feelings. That I'm here for her and I will wait.
The fact that our feelings are the same but can't go back to what we had is a torture to me. I want her back more than ever but this time i feel like it's impossible due to family/friends issue. She is unable to understand that my feelings were hurt and i had to fight back all the accusations

[randomuser94]

We had an explosive break-up and things went a bit too far.
Her friends and family despise me. It's been 2 months since we broke-up and we both tried to move on(and failed). I did said some bad things towards her(the first time i've insulted her after 2+ years), and accused her mother of manipulating her. It's nothing compared to what I was accused and called, I'm not excusing myself... .I've cracked. I had the chance to be better and failed.

Recently she calls me asking to see me. Confesses the following:
-She was cold towards me because she had to try to move on
-She feels like she's not complete anymore. The feeling that came with losing me made her empty and can't escape it no mater she tried.
-Wants to see me, hug me, sleep with me... but she is ashamed of it because of how i hurt her and how her family sees me now
-besides her family she has some sort of 'new lover' that she has to lie aswell. is affraid that someone will find out.
-She needs me to be complete and happy. When she's with me she feels scared she will get cought and she won't lie if confronted. Basically she needs me now more than ever but my presence causes fear.

I've told her to just take some time to search her feelings. That I'm here for her and I will wait.
The fact that our feelings are the same but can't go back to what we had is a torture to me. I want her back more than ever but this time i feel like it's impossible due to family/friends issue. She is unable to understand that my feelings were hurt and i had to fight back all the accusations

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