I feel lost tonight

[nedley]

Thank You, Ive been reading as much as I possibly can. I'm glad there is so much support here, I've been looking for a place like this for the last few months.
I have so many questions I don't know where to start.
One thing that I feel is the lack of intimacy, we become so close and then I feel distance, I feel selfish but it does affect me.
I thought that if I toke care of every problem they would end but there is more, I believe I have to put a limit to it or I will have a full time job doing just that. I have trouble defining what a boundary should be.
Honestly I'm a more direct type of person so I have trouble figuring out how the articles and the information apply to me, I really want to make the changes or improve but I don't know how, this frustrates me very much and in turn makes me feel like I give all of myself and then receive little or nothing back.
I don't blame her, shes been through a lot emotionally and provably can't trust anyone even if that person has all the best intentions.
I feel lost tonight, sorry.

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[Chitchat]

It might help to research the 'anxious - avoidant trap'.

[nedley]

It might help to research the 'anxious - avoidant trap'.

I'm having trouble finding this, do You know where it is? I'm not used to finding things here yet.
Thank You.