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« on: August 24, 2019, 06:28:29 AM »

Hello community,

I could use some advice on this incident:

My ex's exgirlfriend contacted me, asking if he was still talking to me.

My answer was that she should ask him herself and she said that's all she needed to hear.

Yes, we are in light touch but didn't really have a deep conversation for months.

Now I wonder should I tell him about that incident before she does and he might feel betrayed by me?
While I didn't contact him directly for months? Just sending him a screenshot, telling him that there is someone asking questions about him - to show him I'm on HIS side and to show him I didn't tell her lies?

I'm unsure about all this and I don't wanna lose him for good. Can't tell how close they still are.

Thank you
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« Reply #1 on: August 24, 2019, 07:43:40 AM »

Well, I told him before she can. I don't want it to seem like I'm keeping secrets from him. Maybe in a few months from here he'll realise that I'm actually on his side...

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« Reply #2 on: August 24, 2019, 01:42:27 PM »

howd he respond?
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« Reply #3 on: August 25, 2019, 07:28:43 AM »

Hello once removed,

He responded in really sweet way. He took hours to get back to me, but then apologised for her pulling me into this and asked me how I was doing.

Just since I asked him back how he was doing, he ignored my message while happily posting on social media.

This morning he shared on his social media that his ex has lost their baby and that he's heartbroken.

Now I'm torn between sending him my condolences or just letting him come to me again...
Someone died, I am not so sure if no contact is the right answer here... : (
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