This post has helped more than anything so far

[Depression = 72% of members]

This is a post from reddit but thought I would share for anyone struggling, particularly with anhedonia since the breakup.

https://www.reddit.com/r/BPDlovedones/comments/e57xpz/i_know_it_hurts_but_you_cant_go_blank/

This:

"They don't understand, you make YOUR OWN happiness, and they keep trying to leech it out of other people. They're always thinking that having a partner is the only path to happiness, that being alone is a bad thing...
 
Don't be like them. "

I was able to pull myself off the couch and drag myself to an art house film today and it felt for the first time all month I was doing something not as a distraction but because I remembered I actually enjoy things! Like art house films (which bored them).

Remembering I've been making my own happiness long before they came along and my life was actually pretty good before they entered it and I am capable of doing that again. I don't need to leech happiness out of people I can actually create it on my own. I don't know why this simple things seems so life changing for me but I felt like myself after the movie today. A person I haven't seen since the break up.

Sharing in case this helps you like it did me.

[thraceK]

This is a post from reddit but thought I would share for anyone struggling, particularly with anhedonia since the breakup.

https://www.reddit.com/r/BPDlovedones/comments/e57xpz/i_know_it_hurts_but_you_cant_go_blank/

This:

"They don't understand, you make YOUR OWN happiness, and they keep trying to leech it out of other people. They're always thinking that having a partner is the only path to happiness, that being alone is a bad thing...
 
Don't be like them. "

I was able to pull myself off the couch and drag myself to an art house film today and it felt for the first time all month I was doing something not as a distraction but because I remembered I actually enjoy things! Like art house films (which bored them).

Remembering I've been making my own happiness long before they came along and my life was actually pretty good before they entered it and I am capable of doing that again. I don't need to leech happiness out of people I can actually create it on my own. I don't know why this simple things seems so life changing for me but I felt like myself after the movie today. A person I haven't seen since the break up.

Sharing in case this helps you like it did me.

[gizmocasci]

thank you for posting this. i too am hitting my stride again and getting back to the person i was before i allowed my ex to suck the life out of my like a vampire. it is so interesting looking back and comparing who we were before, who we were during and who we are now. if we do the work after the breakup, we can see we are a better, stronger and more wiser person now, than we were then.

best of luck on your continued journey.

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