Living with a partner with BPF

[Johnny1234]

I don’t know what to do and I don’t know how much longer I can take it.

I have been in a relationship for the past 2 years where we have been living together. A friend told me about his spouse with BPD and it lined up with a lot of what I have been going through. I just don’t know what to do. I am looking for ways to function in this relationship as I am currently overwhelmed and exhausted by my current coping tools. I am looking for new ones.

After a call I had with my partner yesterday, I was able to see them as a sick person and was able to have more compassion. I did not fall in to the old traps of arguing. Instead I tried to understand the wants and needs that were being communicated and how I can have strong boundaries at the same time.

I look forward to learning from from this online community. Thank you for being here.

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[JoeBPD81]

Thank you for joining the family.

Stop fueling the arguments was my 1st step in making things better. I hope you find more and more tools that work for you.