I am so grateful to have found this site
I salute all of you for your advice and while my problem might not be as significant in terms of time spent I'd still really appreciate any help.
My, now ex, boyfriend has BPD, ADHD, ASD. We had a great start to a relationship as I also have ASD and so we massively clicked, I am aware there could be some mirroring involved but communication was open and neither of us felt we had to mask around the other person. He was open from the start about his 'chronically suicidal' label from his psychiatric staff and has some serious trauma under the bonnet, having self harmed for as long as he can remember. Though our relationship was pretty short, and he did have a couple of extremely low days, the rest of the time was fine. Last week I received a message saying his feelings had shut down and didn't know if or when they would come back, and that he'd rather me be with someone more stable. Is this splitting? And if so, do I stay, or will that make things worse for him? He's been very open about his fear of
abandonment and being flaky on friends so that he has control of being hurt, and likewise I've always reassured him that I'm not going anywhere and that I'm here to support him no matter what. I haven't heard from him since and I'm scared of making his headspace worse if I pursue it too much, but also I'd hate for him to think I wouldn't get back with him. What should I do?
