Debriefing after an argument

[Slothie83]

I’m emotionally exhausted. Tonight my ubpdh wants a divorce because I “put him down”. He’s having back issues and is between jobs, so no insurance. The back issues have been chronic and he’s looking at needing surgery in the relatively near future. He starts a new job next week and will need to wait 90 days for insurance. He’s talking about all this with me and expressing his concerns when I got home from work today. I don’t have any suggestions or ideas, I have nothing to say except I’m sorry. Then I made the mistake of stating my opinion, that he should have stayed home and iced/heated his back Tuesday night when he hurt it instead of going to help his son move and clean his apartment. That’s his idea of a put down and reason to leave me. I just needed to vent.

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[Lifehasitsups]

Thanks for sharing. My uBPDw also brought up divorce today because for some simple disagreement. I thought we were getting somewhere now that she finally agreed to couples therapy and we each have our own therapists. The saga continues. Keep your spirits up. Sending you good vibes.