My Romantic Partner has split from me

[Helios]

My partner has split from me I think. After just a little while of being together (Informal Relationship meaning no titles or labels.) my partner started to question things would work out. I pushed to try to keep things together. I told them that I loved them and wasn't going to leave. I told them that I wanted to be with them. I told them that I wasn't going anywhere. After they started to question whether the relationship would work they asked me if I would still stay if we didn't end up in a formal relationship. My answer to this was " I don't know." at least then it was. After wanting to be in a formal relationship with them for so long I didn't know if after all that we had already done if I could look at them any other way except for one of affection and love. Now we are at a place where we barely talk. I have started to read the book " Stop walking on eggshells" and I want to start a conversation with them, but I don't know where to start if they seem completely disinterested in talking to me in general.

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[Jabiru]

Hi and welcome It sounds difficult to go through that. Hopefully some time off will help out. Eggshells is a good book. I also recommend Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist to help with your own self. It helped me from "caretaking" my uBPD wife's emotions and instead being there to support her at a healthy level while also caring for my own emotions, health, etc.

About contact with them, maybe just let them know that you're open to talking and give them time to think it over. Good luck and take care.