I tell you what I may sound like a ass saying this but no woman will live with me in the building I worked so hard for and treating me like crap in here no freaking way ! I don't care if she is sexy ugly fat or rich or poor treat me with respect because thats the way I treat ladies always with respect and love.
THat doesn't sound like an ass. THat is exactly how we all should function generally. Anyone treats us like crap and sustains that, out the door they go, its not like BPDs are having a bad day and you're turfing them out. They systematically abuse and overstep boundaries and its disrespectful and not love, its just not. This is how you should be thinking BPDGMG. Stick with it. Its not "ass sounding", it sounds angry, but its actually the right attitude.
Turtlesoup is right.
The thing that keeps us caught up is that we know how *we* treat people (with respect, love, etc) and we want that in return. But here's the thing - when we don't get it, we wish and wish and wish and wish and wish "why oh why can't they just treat me the way I deserve to be treated". It's so obvious to us that that's the way they should be. "Why oh why can't they just see it and change?"
But they don't see it, and they don't change. So we're stuck wishing they were something that they simply are not.
We are not accepting who they are. We are not accepting reality.
Instead of trying to change them or get them to see the light and treat us how we deserve to be treated, we need to accept reality, accept that they don't treat us how we deserve to be treated, accept that it's not what we want and accept that it is not our business to change them and try to make them see the light.
If someone doesn't treat you the way you feel you deserve to be treated, you can either accept that it's not what you want and walk away, or you can continue banging your head against the wall trying to get them to be something that they are not.
