Trellabor, you are right she is trying to reengage you and the common thread is the cat. Can your mom take the cat temporarily? Your ex having the cat is providing an opportunity to reengage so remove any commonality so this won't happen.
Your ex having feelings is natural. You guys broke up. You both need to heal independent of one another
Thank you CM. I'm trying to figure out where I can take my cat for the time being. I hate the push-pull she does with me, it's always been the most constant thing between us. I hope I can get this over with soon, I thought as 2 adults we could at least have an agreement to keep things civil but obviously I was mistaken. I have my appointment tomorrow morning with my T so maybe I'll have a clearer head about it afterward.