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Author Topic: Apparently, hiding in police custody so they can't serve you, nullifies an epo  (Read 327 times)
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« on: February 18, 2012, 06:36:01 PM »

XbfdBPD called Thursday evening from the psyche ward where he's getting an evaluation for sentencing.  I dutifully call the non emergency police number to report the violation.  As soon as I hang up the phone, he calls and leaves a second message.  Wait for six hours for the police to get back to me.  The constable tells me that its not a violation because he hasn't been served... .because they can't find him.  He's been in police custody since November and they can't find him.  Wow.  Now, I'm getting phone calls every night at the same time and the primary cop is off until Monday.  AWESOME!
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« Reply #1 on: February 18, 2012, 08:26:01 PM »

Would it be acceptable to assume that if a person is in the psyche ward and being evaluated, they are frightened? Would it also be acceptable to assume that if someone is on the psych ward that they are not thinking clearly? Observations during this time allow him phone call privileges, so you could notify the ward that his calls are being directed inappropriately to you. They will tell him not to waste his call privileges. Whether or not he listens is another story- he is, after all in the psych ward.

Call friends and family and let them know that you will be turning off your phone and not to worry. Tell them that you are experiencing calls that you do not want to answer. Turn off the phone and make plans to get a new number. Until you can disconnect your current number, expect calls from him. Try not to answer them and become engaged in guilt. This is his battle. You are not responsible for what happens in his evaluation. Good luck.  Doing the right thing (click to insert in post)

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« Reply #2 on: February 20, 2012, 09:35:18 AM »

The constable tells me that its not a violation because he hasn't been served... .because they can't find him.  He's been in police custody since November and they can't find him.  Wow.

Did you tell the constable where he was?  IDK ? but it may take a return to the court to ask the court to direct the police to look for him inside their own system and the psych eval system for him, get him served and thereafter restrict him from prohibited calls.  Tell the court even his phone calls and messages (save them as documentation, don't delete them) while in custody are disturbing and harassing.
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« Reply #3 on: February 20, 2012, 10:02:49 AM »

The primary is back on duty today, so if and when he gets back to me, I'll ask him what needs to be done.  It's frustrating he hasn't been served, he has been in custody since before the EPO was granted.  It's not like he was released then back in custody.  Now I'm getting hang up calls every night around the same time that he left the messages.

I did tell the constable where he was, and he gave me the number of another constable to call and tell.
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