It seems many NONs reach for something they can "do" in futile efforts to "turn" the BPD around. It will never work! Many who've painted someone black dont even seen to recognize when they run into an ex again. Object consistency and selective psychosis. If you've been painted black and are a trigger for strong BPD traits, any good youve EVER done before or since is interpreted as "all bad".
Your physical appearance is totally irrelevant in any of this.
I agree. BPD is a mental illness and an attachment disorder that's triggered by closeness, intimacy and vulnerability. How we look physically is irrelevant. You could look like Ryan Gosling or Paul Newman or Denzel Washington or Miss Universe, USA or America and you'd still get the ___ treatment.
You have to go through several stages of closeness before you are painted black and usually we are painted black because we are demanding of mature reciprocal love... . something that is frustrating for them because they don't have it to give. When you're needs are on the table they bail. When they have your love they don't trust it. They are insecure and carry loads of shame. Shame that they've hidden until the mask falls off. This isn't about degrees of attractiveness. BPD is about being emotionally and mentally sick in the heart and head.
Spell