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« on: January 09, 2013, 02:49:25 PM »

Restaurants we used to go to, etc.  I suppose because things were SO good until the very end when he devalued and discarded me.  My friends keep saying that I went to these places before we dated so why shouldn't I go now.  It hurts though.  I remember sharing memories with him.  I was the happiest I'd ever been.  Now, realizing that it was just a facade on his part... .    I don't know.  I feel like this whole experience ripped a chunk out of my soul.  Last year I went from the highest high to the lowest low I've ever felt in my life.  I hope one day I can venture to these places again and make new memories with someone who loves me for me. 

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« Reply #1 on: January 09, 2013, 03:55:28 PM »

Restaurants we used to go to, etc.  I suppose because things were SO good until the very end when he devalued and discarded me.  My friends keep saying that I went to these places before we dated so why shouldn't I go now.  It hurts though.  I remember sharing memories with him.  I was the happiest I'd ever been.  Now, realizing that it was just a facade on his part... .    I don't know.  I feel like this whole experience ripped a chunk out of my soul.  Last year I went from the highest high to the lowest low I've ever felt in my life.  I hope one day I can venture to these places again and make new memories with someone who loves me for me. 

I share the exact same. Places which I once LOVED, I now not just dread, i just don't go there anymore. For example, my bedroom? I changed the ENTIRE decoration of my bedroom. Just not to be reminded. I eat different food, I wear different clothing. Everything different ... and all that for a better recovery.

In the beginning I did go to these places, why? No idea ... it hurted like hell though and i drowned in self-pity... that does not bring you anywhere.

I avoid places like that at all costs.
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