I figured id share a very humorous eye opening but not out of the fog experience with my pwBPDex to show you the irrationality of their thinking at times.
I am a singer i sing r&b, alternative rock, blues even some country i love music I have a nice voice and when i was at work i loved to sing along to the radio it got me through the day. MY ex and I were on the phone and i was singing that Maroon 5 song "This love"
go figure.
she asked me to never sing in the presence of another woman because to her it was like i was singing to them, as weird as this request was i obliged because she said "me singing in the presence of another women is like her writing poetry for another man. She is an amazing writer ... .
any way i was singing and enjoying work and our conversation... .
She asked me " are you alone" I said no Patricia here ... She replies oh your employee i said Yes ... .
She flipped on me I thought you said you was not going to sing for other women ... .
I said to her Patricia older then my mother so i am not singing for another women
She replies I don't care she could be a cougar I laughed but she was deadly serious ... .
She raged hung up the phone. She called me back 30 minutes later and apologized mainly because i didn't call her back immediately like i always did she hung up and i said no i am not going to stop singing for anyone
i told her I sing for me not you and any other women it makes me happy
she tried to us this control tactic on me again 2 years later in the same way i shut her down... . I love to sing it makes me happy that's actually how i get through the days i sing I find music and it makes me happy moral of the story Stick to your guns in a positive way and i hope you guys got a little humor out of this.
i still chuckle when that memory slips in to my mind
