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Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse... Have you considered that being critical, judgmental, or invalidating toward the other parent, no matter what she or he just did will only make matters worse? Someone has to be do something. This means finding the motivation to stop making things worse, learning how to interrupt your own negative responses, body language, facial expressions, voice tone, and learning how to inhibit your urges to do things that you later realize are contributing to the tensions.
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Author Topic: Letting go... good quote  (Read 503 times)
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« on: February 04, 2013, 12:49:33 PM »

"... .  because to really let go of something means that you no longer hold onto the possibility that it might be fixed.  Not all things are worth fixing, even when it comes to love."

Today, I'm kind of missing ex.  So, I found this great quote after doing some online reading to share with anyone in the same boat today.   

(Repeats to self: nothing can be fixed here, nothing can be fixed here... .  )
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« Reply #1 on: February 04, 2013, 01:01:04 PM »

Thank you, I keep wanting to 'fix' her even though she is with someone else
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« Reply #2 on: February 04, 2013, 01:10:38 PM »

"... .  because to really let go of something means that you no longer hold onto the possibility that it might be fixed.  Not all things are worth fixing, even when it comes to love."

Today, I'm kind of missing ex.  So, I found this great quote after doing some online reading to share with anyone in the same boat today.   

(Repeats to self: nothing can be fixed here, nothing can be fixed here... .  )

interesting quote

one of the things that stumped me the most was our supposed shared belief about love - we really liked the Corintheans - "love is patient, love is kind... .  "

We had it read at our wedding reception actually... .  I found myself trying to live up to that as we were in MC, I took on all the responsibility and blame... .  sometimes, there is nothing more we can do though. 

Letting go is all we can do - which feels sad when we love. 

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« Reply #3 on: February 04, 2013, 01:36:24 PM »

Reminds me of when my kids come to me with a toy that is broken in a way that can not be glued back together. The looks on their faces when I have to tell them it can't be fixed properly. Sometimes they play with what's left of it, using it for something else. Sometimes we acknowledge what a good toy it was, how fun it was to have it for awhile, and then in the trash it goes. There's usually a mix of emotions when that happens.
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