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February 06, 2013, 09:33:33 PM »
Have broken NC to many times before and don't want to have to hit reset button again. Have been NC for 15 days. Blocked all emails, deleted off bbm etc.
Just received a text message:
1st message
Her: Hey, sorry to bother you. I have a flat tire and I was wondering what i should do?
2nd message
Her: Could you help me with it after i get off work?
She really doesn't have a clue as to what to do with a flat tire and doesn't have any friends/family to help her out with a situation like this.
I know i shouldn't, but i'd feel guilty for not responding or leaving her out there with a flat tire when she gets off work so late (9pm), in a quieter part of town.
any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks in advance
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Re: 15 Days No Contact - Need suggestion/help
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February 06, 2013, 09:50:17 PM »
send her a tow company that will usually agree to fix the flat for a minimal fee.
just call the tow service for her-that would be helpful. they all take credit cards!
I would hate to be stuck like that, too.
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Re: 15 Days No Contact - Need suggestion/help
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February 06, 2013, 10:34:29 PM »
Classic boundary buster playing on your good nature.
It's too bad that don't use these scheming powers to do good while in the relationship, though if they did, we wouldn't need this board.
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This is how my BPD got me back one of the times. Its your choice but know that most likely you will get back into the same thing.
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My suggestion is not make yourself available to be a soft place for her to land - I'd say you have done a lot of that in the past.
If NC is your way to heal yourself what is the purpose in compromising it?
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