Valentine's Day

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

I dreaded it.  I got through it.  Two months of silence is absolutely draining me.  UBPDH pretty much threw a box of candy at me and the kids.

He doesn't look at me.  He doesn't talk to me. He walks around acting angry at me, at our life, at everything I offer.  It's the same thing every day.   I did not have a gift for him. I just couldn't find it in me to pretend anymore.  Last July he didn't like the gift I gave him for our anniversary - that was seven months ago.  My family stopped over and instantly he was so pleasant, talking with them, like he's been a wonderful husband and dad. Sickening.

I couldn't find a card that said 'All I really wanted was for you to love me normally.'  Today the silence and anger continues. My plan is moving forward.

[Mind]

I dreaded it.  I got through it.  Two months of silence is absolutely draining me.  UBPDH pretty much threw a box of candy at me and the kids.

He doesn't look at me.  He doesn't talk to me. He walks around acting angry at me, at our life, at everything I offer.  It's the same thing every day.   I did not have a gift for him. I just couldn't find it in me to pretend anymore.  Last July he didn't like the gift I gave him for our anniversary - that was seven months ago.  My family stopped over and instantly he was so pleasant, talking with them, like he's been a wonderful husband and dad. Sickening.

I couldn't find a card that said 'All I really wanted was for you to love me normally.'  Today the silence and anger continues. My plan is moving forward.

[Confuzzled104]

Hey there Sparkle,

I left my uBPD ex gf of 3 years not long over 9 months ago and it was honestly the best decision I have ever made. I understand from your post that you have kids which may compicate things a bit, but this is your life and your kids life and if this is not what you want in your relationship address it with your spouse and see if they are willing to talk and see what the issue is. Communication is always the first step to determing if a relationship should continue or fold. If you cannot communicate and there is no more love chances are only resentment will build.

Confuzzled