Remember this is all about you

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

Hey all.

I know a lot of you are here looking for the answer to this madness.we all are and have been going through

But please as all your friends and family have said remember to look out for you first and keep the focus on yourself healing and moving foward.

Im coming close to a year of coming here battered and bruised.just in a tail spin my life still in ruins coming off being married to a pwBPD for 15 years with 2 preteens kids that i was left with.as yet again she just ran off and left.I chased and tried everything to save WHAT.shes still a mess in her new life that she created. And trying to every now and then test the waters with me... .  im DONE... .  I didnt deserve this but I put my life on hold to fix.and save .and now look back and have went nowhere.

Life is great without them even better , yeah I get lonley and miss us sometimes but the future looks so bright and I will never go down that road again to where I gave someone and this disease power over me... .  

Pleas everyone look out for number 1.  ... .  WHICH IS YOU

[BP39]

Hey all.

I know a lot of you are here looking for the answer to this madness.we all are and have been going through

But please as all your friends and family have said remember to look out for you first and keep the focus on yourself healing and moving foward.

Im coming close to a year of coming here battered and bruised.just in a tail spin my life still in ruins coming off being married to a pwBPD for 15 years with 2 preteens kids that i was left with.as yet again she just ran off and left.I chased and tried everything to save WHAT.shes still a mess in her new life that she created. And trying to every now and then test the waters with me... .  im DONE... .  I didnt deserve this but I put my life on hold to fix.and save .and now look back and have went nowhere.

Life is great without them even better , yeah I get lonley and miss us sometimes but the future looks so bright and I will never go down that road again to where I gave someone and this disease power over me... .  

Pleas everyone look out for number 1.  ... .  WHICH IS YOU

[LoveNYC]

I was just thinking if you tonite, old pal. Glad to see you fighting the good fight and showing yourself the proper respect a man of your value deserves.

[Apple white]

Thank you for a very positive post.  This gave me some hope today when I was feeling down again

[Discarded26]

Great post

Hope I can get past it all in time

[unlockforty1]

I'm where you are - your so right it can get lonely sometimes and you get the wuda cuda shuda moments like it was somehow within your powers at some stage to change her behavior - but luckily (and after the hollow 'feeler' messages from her) you still hear yourself saying I'm done with this and mean it. I lost it all marriage then kids to her control but wanted to say to BPDexW 'look you have it all, our kids, your boyfriend good money deal' All I want is quality access time with my kids and an atmosphere of non aggression to rebuild - but they cant see this at all they want is you to stay on their battleground while they bayonette the wounded to make sure. The biggist price I see paid on these boards is good Guys like you saying ok I get it I can see whats happening just allow me some dignity in this - but she cant see, feel or understand what youv lost. but hope that oneday she will. Your gonna make it brother and with dignity!

[BP39]

Hope this post gives some ppl some help...

@unluckforty.yes I was in the same boat.and almost took my kids to her in this situation with the bf of hers... hes a turd and I pulled his card one day and he has no real heart .plus she was running around him behind his back texting" I love yous "and pics of her self.(we know. Which type) so you know SHES SO MUCH IN LOVE with her bf .and she made a strong push recycle on , I bit thinking she was sincere.very short lived.

Thing is this will always come up , as everyone says they wont change unless getting help on there own.

Just like my ex can do I could recycle her too.just comes to a point yes you love them if you have a long history with them... which I do .could never go down that road again especially after this one... that wasnt love it was dysfunction and one sided total destructon... I wouldnt put up with that with anyone else ... .