She's Still Looking For The One That Makes Her Heart Skip A Beat

[Beware of Junk Psychology...]

 I am 4 years NC and it's been 6 years since I've met woohoo-yoyo online. So tonight, as I was perusing an old dating site where we met, I saw that she is  STILL THERE with the same headline on her dating profile. Folks, The Twilight Zone theme music started to play in my head   Six years later, word for word, like when I met her, she is STILL looking for the one who makes her heart skip a beat and takes her breath away.   This one, who when she was done with me four years ago, who made me feel that I did'nt care if I lived or died, who I ruminated upon and who took up three years of my brainspace, is still looking to idealize, devalue, and disguard someone. Of course, she will once again, meet someone-anyone, who she will deluge with calls and emails because she aches so bad for them, and will love them forever like no other before made her feel blah blah. I tell you it gets to be pathetic seeing them on this hamster wheel of emotional deprivation and entitlement. Not caring who they hurt. They ache so bad for their victims in the beginning as if their love was painful, and it gives their victims a high. To them love is pain, and when they make us leave them or leave us in pain, they think it is for love. She is fifty three years old and still doing this... .  searching for the one she can love so bad it hurts... .  in the end... not her... but them. So sick! I feel sorry for her next victim. I am glad I broke that addiction to her, and will continue to stay NC the rest of my life. Again... I feel sorry for the one she is leaving, and her next victim... NOT her. I have zero feelings or concern for her now thanks to this site and time.

[GlennT]

 I am 4 years NC and it's been 6 years since I've met woohoo-yoyo online. So tonight, as I was perusing an old dating site where we met, I saw that she is  STILL THERE with the same headline on her dating profile. Folks, The Twilight Zone theme music started to play in my head   Six years later, word for word, like when I met her, she is STILL looking for the one who makes her heart skip a beat and takes her breath away.   This one, who when she was done with me four years ago, who made me feel that I did'nt care if I lived or died, who I ruminated upon and who took up three years of my brainspace, is still looking to idealize, devalue, and disguard someone. Of course, she will once again, meet someone-anyone, who she will deluge with calls and emails because she aches so bad for them, and will love them forever like no other before made her feel blah blah. I tell you it gets to be pathetic seeing them on this hamster wheel of emotional deprivation and entitlement. Not caring who they hurt. They ache so bad for their victims in the beginning as if their love was painful, and it gives their victims a high. To them love is pain, and when they make us leave them or leave us in pain, they think it is for love. She is fifty three years old and still doing this... .  searching for the one she can love so bad it hurts... .  in the end... not her... but them. So sick! I feel sorry for her next victim. I am glad I broke that addiction to her, and will continue to stay NC the rest of my life. Again... I feel sorry for the one she is leaving, and her next victim... NOT her. I have zero feelings or concern for her now thanks to this site and time.

[Rose Tiger]

The definition of insanity is doing the same thing and expecting different results.  I did see an old ex on match a while back, 20+ pics  and a part of me wants to warn the admin.  Now I think, someone else is going to get a serious life lesson, just like me.

Do online sites give anyone else the heebie jeebies now? 

[mosaicbird]

Do online sites give anyone else the heebie jeebies now? 

Oh, yes! I was experimentally going through match.com's endless series of questions the other day* (it having told me years ago that I was unmatchable), and wondered to myself, "How on EARTH would my ex answer these questions honestly and get through the process?"   So many people put up profiles that represent who they want to be - their own inward-facing idealization - rather than who they are... .  


*This is a lie. I was actually just seeing if my ex had a profile up. 

Since this is the inventory board, I have to say that any profile heading that said anything overtly or ostentatiously romantic like that would have me running the other way. I have zero trust in that kind of language, now, and I feel like my ability to "fall in love" is burnt to ashes. 

[MaybeSo]

GlenT,

In the spirit of personal inventory, After 4 years NC, why is it surprising she's on the same dating site, and if you are on the site, I assume you are still looking for that special someone, too?

If you are only on there to see if she is there, what do you think the pull or interest Is after all this time has gone by?