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ScotisGone74
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« on: March 06, 2013, 09:23:29 AM »

ever think of their past relationships or do they just keep hopping like a frog from lilly pad to lilly pad the majority of their life?   My exBPD SO was married after two months being apart from me, now pregnant at four months.  I did notice during the two and half years we were together that her ex husband slowly went from being a total monster to being a nice, decent guy in her mind.  I don't know if most BPD's ever feel any guilt about all they have done to the people that loved them in their past relationships, if they can only have only have a certain limited number of the opposite sex that are "white" in their mind at a time, if they are just totally over taken by the thought of being with a New person that they loose all thought about their current SO, or if they think more about their past relationships after they come to the realization that their current partner is not what they imagined it was to be.  Or Possibly a combination of all of the above.   Thanks for all the input
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« Reply #1 on: March 06, 2013, 10:03:35 AM »

I can't speak for your EX, naturally, but I believe mine thinks of all past relationships.

I think time naturally moves them from black to white in her mind.

She left the father of her children and the fact he has moved on really bothers her.  He's about to get married and I know that makes her really angry, even though she "cant stand him".

I think that's why they tend to recycle with old EXs. 
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