Do they feel jealously?

[expos]

Say they detach from you, specifically say that they want no contact from you, and move on to "seeing someone".

... .  but they still know what you are doing in your life, and seeing things that you do via twitter, Facebook, etc.

When they detach, people say they feel no emotions about it.  They start to hate and resent you.

What on earth makes them come back then?  Why do they start idealizing they same people again?



 

[mango_flower]

I wish I knew... .  

My ex says she would be sad but ok if I started dating again.

Yet when she misinterpreted a comment I had made on facebook to a male friend of mine, she apparently started ranting at her new girlfriend "OMG, my ex is flirting, with a GUY! It would be ok if it was another girl, but not a guy!"

She called me to tell me this.  I don't understand it at all!

[expos]

I want to add that they see that you are doing well, get jealous, do they try to get back into your life?

I am slowly recovering from my divorce from my ex-wife.   I asked for it, not her.   I am worried about her coming back into my life and being really too nice to her again (it is my make up, I cannot re-wire myself to hate) once she's done with her current boyfriend and I've fully recovered.

[LuckyEscapee]

My experience is that you moving on in your life is more abandonment.

[trevjim]

Mine was very jelouse during the relationship and just after we split a girl left an innocent message on my facebook and she got mad. However when she split me black and got with someone else and found out I was seeing someone she didn't care. We are just objects and when we have served a purpose there is no need to be jelouse anymore.

[SarahinMA]

My experience is that you moving on in your life is more abandonment.

I believe this too.  Also, I know my ex felt jealousy.  After he broke up with me, I became really close with a male friend of mine who also went through a tough breakup.  We were just friends, but flirty.  I heard my ex was talking a LOT of crap about him to other mutual friends and still despises him to this day (from what I hear). 

[Ruthy2]

It may also be that they are see you are moving on (it may be just in their mind) and focusing on others rather than them and they resent that.

I’m not sure if they feel jealousy although it can come across as such, I’d say my ex was possessive rather than jealous, although at times I did interpret it as jealousy but now Im not so sure.

[mitchell16]

During our many recycles the first question out her mouth was usually did I start dating anyone else. Not how you been or any concern she would alway want to know about other women. I dont know if it was jealousy or what. When we staretd dating she told me she wasnt the jealous type that she didnt get jealous. But two her biggest blow ups was over me having conversations with a female wo-worker that didnt involved nothing but freindship. She ws complately irrational and would not listen to any type of reason. But on one of teh occasions it was because I was talking to this female worker and she walked up and I didnt give her my immediate undivied attention and that was she said later. So I dont know if it was jealousy or that she couldnt stand it if she was my main focus.