She rang...

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

Ive been kind of dreading hearing or seeing her for a while having been N/C for a few months now. I checked my phone after work to find a missed call from her and a voicemail. before I listened to the voicemail I started to almost panic, worry as to why she called etc.

Turns out she was simply having problems paying a bill for a new year as it was still in my name and the company wouldnt let her, long story short, several calls to her and the company its all sorted.

She was however very friendly on the phone, as was I, not in a weird way either, just as you would be with a friend.

My point is Having spoken to her, I didnt really feel anything, negative or positive, I Hope we dont have to speak again and I know this wasnt a recycle attempt as she had a genuine reason, and on the call niether of us strayed from talking about the Bill. It was nice in a way to have a normal converstation and hopefully leave it as that.

[trevjim]

Ive been kind of dreading hearing or seeing her for a while having been N/C for a few months now. I checked my phone after work to find a missed call from her and a voicemail. before I listened to the voicemail I started to almost panic, worry as to why she called etc.

Turns out she was simply having problems paying a bill for a new year as it was still in my name and the company wouldnt let her, long story short, several calls to her and the company its all sorted.

She was however very friendly on the phone, as was I, not in a weird way either, just as you would be with a friend.

My point is Having spoken to her, I didnt really feel anything, negative or positive, I Hope we dont have to speak again and I know this wasnt a recycle attempt as she had a genuine reason, and on the call niether of us strayed from talking about the Bill. It was nice in a way to have a normal converstation and hopefully leave it as that.

[blecker]

Good for you trevjim. I hope so too. I seldom hear of such cordial exchanges from these folks.

There always seems to be an agenda.

[afterdeath]

Of course they only contact you when they need something from you

[trevjim]

Of course they only contact you when they need something from you

true

Thing is she could of kept quiet because the company even offered to refund the payments she had been makingand charge me for them simply because the account was in my name.

So she obviously has some sore of conscience

[afterdeath]

Of course they only contact you when they need something from you

true

Thing is she could of kept quiet because the company even offered to refund the payments she had been makingand charge me for them simply because the account was in my name.

So she obviously has some sore of conscience

No, she just wanted to inconvienance you and make you do it. If she had a conscience she would apologize for being wicked.

[trevjim]

Of course they only contact you when they need something from you

true

Thing is she could of kept quiet because the company even offered to refund the payments she had been makingand charge me for them simply because the account was in my name.

So she obviously has some sore of conscience

No, she just wanted to inconvienance you and make you do it. If she had a conscience she would apologize for being wicked.

She tried to but the company wouldn't let her, as it is in my name only I could change it.

[afterdeath]

That may be true, but I wouldn't say she had a conscience because she told you to change it. She is probably disgusted that you caused her difficulty by having it in your name in the first place.

Don't give her any credit, she deserves none until she arrives at your window holding up a radio bawling her eyes out that she's sorry.

Otherwise, your emotional bank should have her on the lockout list, no credit.

[Leaf]

She is probably disgusted that you caused her difficulty by having it in your name in the first place.

Don't give her any credit, she deserves none until she arrives at your window holding up a radio bawling her eyes out that she's sorry.

again. I remember one time 'Cry me a river' was playing on the radio and my BPD (w/NPD traits)-ex said he didn't understand that song. He looked really puzzled.