Tailspin thank you, I'm really going to look hard at myself, I've worked on my self esteem and I'm going to look into my part in projection and see where that stems from.
Causticdork, thank you, that gives me great hope and I can totally relate to how you describe your heartbreak. You've made me realise that I've been looking at her as an object and almost as if hot girls are a trophy for this macho competition I was in, life is so much more than that.
big +1 for that. great posts in this thread.
